Don’t let “sex skills” become a health killer

As people pay more attention to the quality of sexual life, many couples seek to change traditional sexual habits and try various novel sexual techniques and positions. What are the misunderstandings and safety risks? Recently, reporters interviewed relevant sexual medicine and sexual society Study expert. Experts remind you that you can try novel ways of having sex, but you should do it according to your personal circumstances and avoid causing harm to the body. Do not try risky sexual behaviors. Professor Ma Xiaonian, a famous sexologist, executive director of the Chinese sexology Society and chairman of the sexual Medicine Professional Committee of the Chinese sexology Society, accepted a telephone interview from reporters at his Home in Beijing. He said that the Hunan female Teacher Huang Jing’s naked death reminded us that the prerequisite for a harmonious sex life is safety first. "It is necessary to emphasize the importance of sexual responsibility, respect yourself and your partner, and avoid harming yourself or others." Professor Ma Xiaonian said that from the information published online, Jiang Junwu passed the test when his girlfriend Huang Jing was unwilling to have sex. sexual intercourse is performed while straddling the breasts. This posture should not be a big problem for normal people, but for a heart patient, accidents may occur. When a person enters a state of sexual excitement and reaches climax, his heartbeat and breathing will accelerate significantly, which consumes a lot of physical energy. Therefore, before engaging in sexual life, you must understand the other person's body and your own body to avoid accidents. Professor Ma Xiaonian said that when people have sex, they must first be safe, and secondly, quality. It is right to pursue changes in sexual life. Different positions will bring freshness to people, but safety must come first. In abnormal positions, some violent movements can not only easily cause abrasions, lacerations and heavy bleeding in the female Vagina, but may also cause damage or even breakage to the male genitals, because the genitals are in a congested state and are affected by the abnormal position of the female body. Under the squeeze, the albuginea outside the corpus cavernosum will be overwhelmed and rupture. He specifically pointed out not to try dangerous behaviors such as "suffocation sex". The so-called "suffocation sex" means using props such as sheets, tape, and plastic bags to cover the mouth and nose during sex, causing local organs to highly contract due to lack of air, thereby creating an instant sexual Pleasure that is almost suffocating. Doing so can easily lead to death due to a momentary confusion of consciousness. Don’t over-exaggerate the role of sexual techniques. Professor Xu Yuancheng, a member of the Andrology branch of the Chinese Medical association, said: In clinical practice, we often treat patients with injuries caused by special sexual behaviors. Some have glass balls inserted into women’s Vaginas that cannot be taken out; some use bearings to cover them. The penis cannot be taken off; there are also some special positions that cause the male penis to break and the female cervix to be injured. Experts remind that most of the sexual movements in "Lust, Caution" are abnormal positions and can only be completed by women with yoga and gymnastics experience and relatively soft bodies. If ordinary people blindly imitate them, they are prone to fractures and ligament injuries, and the nervous system may also be affected. Influence. Xu Yuancheng believes that over-exaggerating the role of sexual skills in sex and marriage may be counterproductive. If a husband ignores his Wife's emotional needs, simplifies sex life, and even turns it into a "task" or "performance", it will not only be difficult to gain the Wife's heartfelt recognition and dependence, but may also harm the Wife's personality and emotions. Once the Wife is emotionally or physicallyWithout active cooperation for other reasons, the husband is prone to have a relatively strong sense of frustration and loss, and even cause inexplicable misunderstandings between the couple. In fact, the frequency of a couple’s sexual life and the level of physical energy consumption are basically determined by their physical condition and age. Couples of different ages and physical conditions should choose based on the actual situation that both of them can accept and can actually produce. sex tips for physical and mental Pleasure. Xiaohan has hosted a midnight talk column on a radio station for 7 years and has a high influence among listeners. She told reporters that sexual behavior is attracting more and more attention, but there are many misunderstandings and scientific guidance is urgently needed. "A male listener once called me excitedly and said that in order to increase the Pleasure in sex, his Wife put on metal rings on her Vagina and nipples to increase the fun. I immediately pointed out to him in the program that the first thing to pay attention to during sex is Safe and healthy, such a traumatic method can easily cause infection and cause great harm to the body and mind. We should be cautious about exchanging long-term pain for instant Pleasure. "Xiaohan said that many young people are now married for three to five years. After a few years, regular sex becomes boring, so I try all kinds of novel sex, but when the novelty is no longer there, I feel bored and disappointed. I often say in the program, what does sex bring to us? It’s not just sexual stimulation. When we have a skin-to-skin kiss, what we give each other is care, appreciation, admiration and recognition, which is a kind of spiritual satisfaction. Recognizing this, you will not focus all your attention on the intensity of sensory stimulation, but will reach a harmonious state of harmony from heart to body. In this way, two people will have a hearty and heart-to-heart relationship together. feeling. People often say that a woman is a book, and this book needs to be read carefully. A woman's love cannot be easily opened with the simple key of "sexual skills". The results of a random survey of women show that although 90% of women believe that sex life plays a very important role in marriage, 48.9% of women believe that sincere communication and understanding between husband and Wife are more conducive to enhancing relationships than sexual skills. Experts remind you to beware of self-defeating sexual techniques. In most cases, sexual techniques only focus on the connection between sexual stimulation and sexual response, which can easily lead to a disconnect between sex and love, and is not conducive to expressing the mutual concern and care between husband and Wife. This is like being overly dependent on tools. It’s the same reason that it’s not conducive to emotional communication between couples. Because sex requires the full devotion of both men and women, including the cultivation of emotions, mutual understanding of the world of the opposite sex, and the coordination and cultivation of sexual psychology, etc. In this process, sexual skills are at best a carrier. A middle-aged man once said with emotion that he had always thought that his Wife's breasts were a sensitive part of his body. Unexpectedly, he only recently figured out that she actually preferred him to caress her back! And her back is obviously not in the traditional sense. Erogenous zone. Therefore, he said, it is difficult to guess a woman's "sexual thoughts"! There is also a Young Woman who was "taken advantage of"! Her original intention was to have less pain during her first sexual intercourse on the wedding night. So she deliberately read some books on sexual skills, which said that women

In sexual life, if you can adopt a positive and proactive attitude and "warm up" your body first, you will be able to have more sexual intercourse. Happiness, less pain and trouble! However, after she followed the instructions, her husband had no reason to suspect that she had had sexual experience. There is also a husband who is particularly keen on practicing sexual skills. He uses at least 3-5 different caressing methods every time he has sex, not to mention frequently changing sexual positions and stimulation methods. But his Wife's real feeling is "torturous!" The reason is actually easy to understand, because whether men or women want to reach orgasm, they must rely on short and uninterrupted compressions and continuous and rhythmic stimulation. If the sexual stimulation method is changed frequently, the intensity of each individual stimulation method will decrease, which is not conducive to the arrival of orgasm. Moreover, overemphasis on sexual skills will also cause invisible pressure on both parties. For example, one party performing sexual skills will be worried that his skills are not good, and the other party may wonder if there is something wrong with his sexual response! Alternative sex should be done in moderation. From basic sexual satisfaction to sexual well-off, some alternative ways of Making Love, such as video sex and lathe sex, have also emerged. As a way to increase sexual passion, there is nothing wrong with outdoor sex, lathe gangs, and video masturbation. However, if it is widely promoted as a special preference in sexual life, many young people will feel that otherwise they will not be able to experience the stimulation of sex. , it is very dangerous.